Father's Visitation Rights?

I live in Maine and I asked a question a while ago about my pregnancy, and though I'm still not sure as to whether or not I am, I think it's vital for my personal situation to see about the rights that the father would have. As I said before, I am 14, and the father would be 16, if I am in fact pregnant. Whereas we are both minors, what rights would he have as a father? We are still together, though my parents do not approve. I am not allowed to see him, and I am afraid that if I am indeed pregnant, they may try a restraining order or something of the sort to keep him away from me, or the child. There are more details but they aren't pertinent to this situation. He is not (never has been, never will be) abusive, so I do not believe that they would have any grounds on which to base a restraining order. Even if you do not live in Maine, if you have some experience in this area, any answers will be much appreciated! This is a slightly important matter, and quick responses would be great!
Honey:
First of all you need to keep yourself calm... stress and upset can hurt the baby.
Find out as soon as you can if you're pregnant, so you can get prenatal care started.
If you are pregnant, he has all the rights of any father, unless found unfit.
Your boyfriend, like you, is a minor so other then making you stay away from him there isn't much your parents can do. But forcing you to stay away from him will only make you want to see him more. Even if they do get a restraining order ... it will be removed from his record when he's 18.
Please take care of yourself, in all aspects. Eat right until you find out for sure and stay away from all the sodas.
((((((Big Hugs))))))))

P.S.
Don't pay attention to the people that right stupid things. those that are quick to judge have never lived.
Repent sinner.
If u were my daughter I'd send u to yr auntie in alabama.


Answers:
I'm 56 and have gone through 20 years of Child support from two marriages.

I'm going to give you the same advice I gave my son, who is now 21.

When he was 16 he had a girlfriend and stated he would marry her when he was done with college. I bet him a $100 that it wouldn't last that long. 6 months later they had split. Yea, he still owes me the $100, I don't want it, but I was trying to make a point..darling, you're too young. He understood later he was much too young to make any such plans.

OK, while I don't know about restraining orders and all the stuff that could happen, this is the real part. If you keep the baby and go on public assistance at anytime in the future, the state will go after your boyfriend for Child support if you are not married. They will make you tell them who the father is or will make it very difficult to get assistance. At your age and having a kid, there is a high likelihood you'll need assistance in the future. It will screw up your boyfriends life.

You have options, one is abortion, the other is adoption, the other is keeping the kid.

I strongly advise on the first two. It is your choice. You need to raise a kid right in todays society and give them every opportunity to make something of themselves. You simply can not do that without a lot of help from your parents, probably the state and others. Making big life long plans that are set in concrete, like having a kid at your age is ill advised. You may feel like you're an adult, but you're still a kid. Keeping the child will end up changing your life in ways you can't imagine. I guarantee you will regret it. You need to be older, much older to have the responsibility of a child. Your life is really just starting. Just think of all the fun, the clubbing, the concerts, the nights you'll wish you could go out but can't because of your child. You'll have few friends your age that have children. You'll be old before your time.

In order to put the kid up for adoption you will need to get your boyfriend to sign off on that. Abortion, that is your choice only and no matter what you boyfriend does, he can't prevent it.

I know you love your boyfriend and he loves you --- but don't bank your life on that love now. Both of you are much to young in todays society for that. Remember, if you end up together and married, it is supposed to be for the rest of your life --- that could very well be for 70 years!! By the time you are 21 you will be a completely different person with different values, different outlooks, and a different way of thinking. Compound that with the same for your boyfriend and you'll end up being two different people. That is why you are too immature and need to be more set in your ways before you are ready to settle down. I'm serious when I say this, 27 years old for a woman, 32 for a guy to get married.

I believe in being positive and in your case it seems like you have a huge black cloud hanging over your head. Take this opportunity to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself where you are going in life, and what you want to be. Don't chose being a mother, that is a cop out. Then make some goals and go for it. Not goals that are set in stone, but goals you can change as need be.

Keep in mind, once you decide to keep the kid, there isn't a good way to go back.

Good luck and peace
I went through similar situation years ago in FL.

Your parents could file for a restraining order of sorts on our behalf. The judge would rely extensively on your testimony though. If this happens, tell the judge the truth and he will see the truth. You are a very young girl and your parents are very upset because if you are pregnant you have just thrown away your childhood. You might not see it this way, but in time you will wish you could have done things that other kids got to do while you were at home tending to your child. Try to understand where your parents are coming from. I am sure that they are upset and want the best for you.

Your parents could also try to get custody of the child. Neither of you are capable of taking care of this child on your own so they might have a valid claim there.

The father cannot and would not be denied contact with his child though, unless they felt he would endanger the child.
If he is the father, then he has rights. It doesn't matter how old he is. If he want to see the child that his right, and your parents cant stop him. The only way they would be able to stop him is if they made you go to court and try to get full custody with no visitation rights. No judge will grant that, if there is no wrong doing. So basically you parents cant do anything, unless its illegal for a 16 year old to have sex with a 14 year old in Maine. They could take him to court for having sex with a minor, I still don't know if that would take away visitation rights though.
your parents cant get a restraining order on him without a cause! its not like its something thats handed out for things like that! Also they cant keep him away from the baby because he is the father. not trying to put much pressure but a lot of tennage boys dont really hang around for the babies i just want you to be vary careful! My friend had a baby at 17 and her mom dosent like the guy but she cant do anything about it!
as for the restraining order, even if they can get one, the father can still have 'supervised' visitation rights. they can be set up in the courts...it's up to the father to follow through with the visitations however!
i do hope that you're not pregnant, but it has more to do with your age, and it's harder on such a young girl! i hope all works out well for you though! i'm not here to preach,
Your question is still premature because that is your presumption that you are pregnant what you should do is to see a doctor for a test. There's no law forbids a father's visitation right except if he is a notorious man.
1) Find out if you're pregnant. Pray that you're not, because life is going to be EXTREMELY challenging if you are.

2) The age of consent in Maine is 16, so it's possible your parents could contact law enforcement and have charges filed. Since he's also a minor, he would probably be tried as a juvenile. If you believe you love this kid, STOP having sex with him and WAIT until you're an adult.

3) Respect your parents. I know you think they're unfair, but be honest with yourself. A pregnant or possibly pregnant 14 year old girl is obviously not responsible enough to be given rights and privileges. Listen to them, do as your told and earn their trust back.