How should nieces/nephews address their uncle??

My sister-in-law insists that her kids call me Uncle Jim and my wife Aunt Paula. I state that I don't like it, but she insists that it is necessary to show respect. To me it is demeaning. I don't refer to my brother as 'brother Jack' or my daughter as 'daughter Judy'. To me it sounds like you are turning a person into an object. Have others heard that this is necessary to show respect or is my sister-in-law just making her own rules?
it is a term of respect and endearment. I do however believe if you do not care for it you can come up with your own names. In the area I am in children do not just call people by their first names. it is considered rude. So people are Mrs. Dorothy or Mr. Dan. Aunts and Uncles are Aunt Lynda and Uncle Ronnie. But I have an Uncle that does not care for it so we call him Donkey Don. This was his Idea. You can come up with different ways for the children to show you respect if it really bothers you!
It is a very common family tradition to address aunts and uncles in this way in the U.S. It isn't any more demeaning than the titles 'Mom' and 'Dad'.
Well it sould be up to you to decide wether or not you should be call Uncle Jim and your wife Aunt Paula. Most childern call there aunts and uncles, Aunt Jan or Uncle Mark, as did i. I had a friend that called her uncle, Shawn.

I think it is totlly your desion, and if your wife feels the same way, then hers as well. You should talk to your sister-in-law and your brother as well, maybe they will change their minds.I believe that it's your desion.
It's an age thing. (and respect for your elders)

My father was the oldest of 10. The next four in line are Uncle/Aunt. The youngest five range from 1-10 years older than me so they're first name basis.
It's a matter of respect,teaching the younger generation respect to elders is a necessity these days, it's a title that you should be proud of. Im of mixed race black and filipino and on my filipino side you older brothers and sister have a title just like you would mom and dad ,uncle and aunt so to this day and we are all grown up now but, my younger siblings had never called me just my first name and nobody feels like an object or somebody is above the other, just try and see if you could get comfortable with it , it would teach the kids manners and if it really bothers you then have a talk with them but just keep in mind manners and respect starts at home and should be inforced by the whole family.
good luck i hope things work out.
Proper etiquette is to use Uncle or Aunt followed by the first name. It is always disrespectful for a child to address an adult by their first name. Uncle is a title the same as Mister or Miss. It is not treating people as if they were objects. However, manners are about kindness and making other people comfortable so if Uncle makes you feel uncomfortable your wishes should be honored.
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It is a matter of respect and dignity. Of family tradition and honor. It is also a personal choice. My opinian is to use the names Uncle and Aunt, They have positions of responsibillity within the family and should be given the respect of neices and nephews. Family traditions should be honored.
I (still) call my uncle, Jim, 'Uncle Jim.' To me, it's a sign of respect, like calling my mother 'Mom' or a teacher 'Mr._______.'
Your sister-in-law isn't making up her own rules, but those kinds of rules really vary from family to family and by geographic location.

Her rules are just different from yours, and IMO, when they reguard her own children, they should be honored. Insisting that her children *not* call you 'Uncle' would be as bad as her insisting that your daughter call her 'Aunt.'
It depends on how old the niece or nephew is. When I was younger, I used to always address my aunts and uncles as such. Now, it is less important and first name will usually do.


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I was raised with the whole 'respect' thing and would even find myself getting slapped if I failed to say 'sir, ma'am, please, thank you, etc.' I think if a parent is that insistant on their children showing 'respect' in public then there are probably deeper problems.

My niece and nephews have the option to call me by my first name or to preface it with 'aunt.' There are other ways of showing respect than by the words that come out of your mouth.
its showing respect and its completly normal in the US, u do not use this method to your brother/sister or child becasue they are not supierer to you.
It really depends on how the aunt or uncle wants to be called. Some prefer having the 'Aunt' or 'Uncle' stated before their first names, while others simply don't care if their nieces of nephews refer to them as 'Bob' or 'Susan'. There's no real proper way of addressing them. You just ask them what they prefer and out of courtesy follow their response.