Why is there no punishment for infidelity?
Would not a law against it help heal society. I mean it is one of the commandments.
Heal society?
I think the expectation that it's society's job to force someone to stay in a relationship or comply to someone else's 'proprietary concerns' is a little manipulative and ridiculous. It also runs 180-degrees off how the human brain actually works and is probably the root cause of half the wars and murder over the last several thousand years.
I think you honestly need to come to terms with the fact that women are not commodities anymore and can survive on their own so they feel less apt to put up with BS rules to control them.
To heal society, we need to do less coercion to keep people in line and adopt and adapt to something more in line with how the human mind and body works.
This weakness of needing someone else to do the dirty work when a man or woman can't manage to hold the sexual or emotional interests of their chosen partner is a serious indicator that the system needs to change.
There is...in Saudi Arabia, etc.
I don't like infidelity but criminalizing it is rife for abuse.
No thanks...that's just scary.
How many people do you think would then have police records???
There's a law against it in Illinois. There are actually two laws against it (sorta). The laws are Adultery and Fornication. Both are misdemeanors, but they're both rarely (if ever) used. I've worked for years w/the Dept. of Corrections in Illinois and I've seen almost everything (including a blind woman who was in for murder), but I have never known anybody to have been charged with those crimes.
A law against it would just add insult to injury. Infidelity is its own punishment, no need to rub it in.
And how is it any of your business if your neighbor is boning his secretary? Mind your own business.
No punishment??!!? Where are you living?! I've known more that one doofus who cheated and got hosed in the divorce.
Since marriage is a civil contract, it is the civil courts that dish out the punishment. Which can be huge property divisions, loss of children, alimony and child support payments.
Divorce is a punishment.
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There was a movie made based on the true story of a wife suing her husbands cheating partner (unfortunately, I'm at a loss to remember the name). The wife received just over a million dollars in judgements, but never collected. The judgements did make the adulteress harder to employ, because the man she cheated with was her boss.
And Yes I'm an American what does that have to do with anything? If your unhappy in your marriage, pay the lawyer, get a divorce and get on with your life. It's not societies duty to hold your hand through life, it's your responsibility to control your own destiny, not mine or your neighbours. If we go down that road, where does it end?
There is a law in the UCMJ making adultery illigal. Although, it is difficult to enforce this type of law.
There are more henious crimes that law enforcers must deal with....
Because it is a civil and not a criminal issue.
The wall of seperation between church and state dictates that you cannot base law on the bible or the 10 commandments.
Adults sexual behavior--as long as it is consentual-is their business. And religious fanatics are not allowed to force their narrow-minded beliefs on other people-not in the United States of America.
If those trash don't like it, they can leave.
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I think all those cheating bastards should have their tiny little peckers chopped off. But I don't think you can force people to be faithful through laws. I do agree though that in the case of marriage the innocent party should be greatly favoured when it comes to divorce, which in Australia at the time being they're not.
It's 'thou shalt not covet thy neighbors wife in vein' Infidelity is a wonderful thing with the right person.
Apparently you've never heard of alimony. Though shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife kinda covers it, Commandment-wise.
Because you can't legislate morality, at least not in the USA, and there is a separation of church and state, which rules the ten commandments obsolete. Hopefully, however, god or karma will punish such behavior. I agree that infidelity is a despicable act and should be looked down upon, but I personally want the government to stay out of my bedroom.
If people aren't willing to be monogamous, they shouldn't lie to their partners. Being open and honest with your partners builds a far better foundation than would coerced monogamist fetishism, as you seem to wish for.
The government has no right to stop two(or more, if they so choose) consenting legal adults from privately enjoying each other's sexuality. If you don't like that, you can start your own theocracy elsewhere.
People have unwittingly chosen to make their marriage a commercial venture with the STATE via the marriage license. The STATE has the higher position in the partnership and probably isn't interested in seeing an anti-infidelity law passed as it wouldn't have a claim.
there is a law against adultery , its just really hard to prove in a court of law
I think there should be a law against it. Jake brought up separation of Church and State. That is there to protect people for religious freedom. Nothing more, nothing less. Time has changed the meaning behind it, but that was the original reason. I don't believe there truly is separation of Church and State. If there were, we would NOT have a court system. One of the commandments is 'You shall not kill'. People go to prison for murder. Another is 'You shall not steal'. People go to jail for that as well. So why not be punished for committing adultery? All states do not allow alimony, but I think they should. Because most time, cheating leads to divorce and the person cheating SHOULD be held accountable. Divorce is not punishable alone, because then the person that got cheated on is being punished as well and getting nothing out of it except a broken home for her kids and broken dreams for themselves.
