X Prisoner?
I'm dating a guy who was released from prison in August of last year. In total, he was incarcerated for 4 years. How can I help him adjust to the 'free world'? He isn't on Parole or Probations to help either.
It doesn't happen over night.Unless he has attempted it before more than the amount of years spent locked up. Sometimes prison life can cause certain people to miss it once they are out, as crazy as it seems. For some it sort of provides a net of associates who sort of become family. But that depends on the persons age. Which really either way takes vigorous honesty and desire! One thing I do suggest is that he try a 12-step program like N.A.,A.A. depending on his preferences. These programs are world wide and really very helpful to any type of dead end lifestyle that is costly for living low. If only there is a desire to change!
One can even start their own group if none available near you simply by contacting them on the web or letter as well as attending meetings. But only if serious about changing. First check out your local areas to get a better feel of it. You'll be amazed as to the information available 'as well some of its members that really work the program!'
GOOD LUCK
the best thing you can do is try to get him to make new friends, better ones than he had before, help him maintain a healthy life style, he will get cabin fever now and again, So try to have some fun activites away from home planned so he doesnt get bored and go back to old methods to entertain himself. Be encouraging in everything he tries to do, even if he fails, if he gets discouraged he might give up. He needs to try to find a job, It might be difficult depending on what his conviction was, but be positive, And If he just keeps going down and he wont let you help him anymore, If he goes back to his old ways and seems content there, Run, get out of the relationship, He was incarcerated for a long time and wants the feel of a woman right now. Dont let him feed you a bunch of lies and empty promises that will drag you down with him or break your heart. So take a long look at this before you make any rash desicions. I was incarcerated for about the same amount of time, and to be honest, there is a fine line in what I wanted to do and who I wanted to be. And with struggling with relapse and stress. My grand ideas ended up being mostly just that, Ideas, so just be careful and realize that if you get into this, you are probaly in for a long hard ride for a while untill it works out or falls apart
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Just try and keep him away from the elements that put him in jail. Also try and keep him busy and focused on creating a life with you. That is all you can do.
instead of healping him you need to be staying away from him
