how many is too many?

My husband ,my mom, my 3 sisters, grandma, mother and father-in-law and two sister-in-laws and two grandma-in-laws all want to be in the delivery room when it is that time.(12 people) plus all the doctors/nurses. My husband is more laid back about it, and has no problem with it. I, on the other hand, do not want all those people in there during that time, because I feel I am going to be uncomfartable enough as it is and I don't want all those people standing around me cheering me on and staring at my va jay-jay. How do I decide who should go in the room with us and how do I tell everyone else without hurting their feelings?
I think you should have just your husband there. you don't need all of those people in the room. they can wait until you come home.
tell them no.
it's your private feelings about it.
i actually cant believe the audacity. IF they have given birth then they should know that it is something private for some women and need not be a show.
what they should really want to see is the baby afterwards, not the birth!
it is yours and the fathers time to be in there not anybody else's
tell everyone that it is a special moment for you and you just want your husband to be there. they will understand.


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WHOA! That's CRAZY! This is the very most important moment in your entire life. NOTHING will ever even compare to it. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT ALL OF THESE PEOPLE, (how ridiculous!) WANT TO DO. You should just be straight forward about it. Maybe they'll be all 'aagh, whatever' at first but after the baby has arrived they'll forget all about it because it will ALL BE ABOUT BABY. This is your last chance to make things all about YOU cause once the baby is here it's no more pampering to your needs. There are so many reasons not to have all of those people in the room with you during such an intimate personal time my mind is boggled trying to keep them straight so that I can lay them out for you. During my labor and delivery I couldn't do anything but imagine myself all alone with me and my breathing. I had to shut my eyes AND my husband out. The only thing I let him do was hold his hand out so I could squeeze it really hard with every contraction. If he said ANYTHING I had to shush him. It's the only way I could deal. I would have undoubtedly kicked every single person out of my room if I had all of those people... thankfully, (and unfortunately at the same time), I didn't even have that option because we are stationed in Japan. Maybe you could just make sure that it's video taped so they can watch it later and point the camera from behind your head so they don't have a direct shot on your, er, va jay-jay. If nothing else tell them that you've read somewhere about how it's so important to keep things quiet, dark, and unexcitable for the baby when (s)he is born so that (s)he becomes as comfortable as possible asap. It's so important for you and daddy to welcome your little bundle of joy before everyone else does. It's your right and you need to take it. CONGRATULATIONS! Motherhood is SO awesome. Hope everything works out for you! Now go be assertive! :)
it's totally up 2 u and no one else.dont worry about offending people.they should all understand.u mite not want any1 in there except ur husband,this way no one is hurt.i would say that's pretty safe.good luck!
huby only,,,,,,,,,,,, i mean jesus why dont you just have a webcamand send all of us a video
Jeez! I could not do that. I can't even describe how awful that would make me feel. Anyway, it seems to me that it should be up to you, but I wonder if there aren't regulations at the hospital about how many people can be in the delivery room. Surely it is limited to no more than two observers.