My sister-in-law is throwing a beef-n-beer benefit in my honor. Do I go?

I was diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma in June of '05. I went through surgery to remove the involved lymph nodes and 3 rounds of bio-chemotherapy. I returned to work, then found out that the cancer had returned, had metastized (sp?) to my brain and bone, and that it is now stage 4. I did Gamma Knife radiation to the three tumors in my brain, then radiation to my brain, spine & rib cage. I also did one round of chemotherapy that breaks the blood brain barrier. I am also taking some alternative approaches to 'curing' myself. So, my sister-in-law is throwing a beef-n-beer to help my husband & I with mt medical bills. Do I attend?
If you feel well enough at the time of the affair, then go. If not, you could just send a letter of thanks to be read to everyone who supported the efforts and a special note of thanks to your sister-in-law. My prayers and best wishes to you.
if u want
fOLLOW YOUR HEART AND DO WHAT IT TELLS YOU
Ask your sister how she feels about it. More than likely, it's not necessary for you to attend. It really depends on you, and if you would be comfortable in that type of situation. If you do attend, however, I would take the extra step to stand up and thank everyone for their support, and possibly make a small speech.


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Being in the medical field, my answer to you would be go if you feel you can attend. The party is given to you in your honor of being a strong person. And hopefully raise money for your expenses. Others will understand if you are unable to go. At this point you need to take care of youself. Appreciate the fact you have people who truely care!! The ones that just want food and a party are not worthy of even a thank you note.

My name is Kim.The best of luck to you. Please let me know how you are really doing, I'd love to hear from you.
I attened a gathering like this and the guest of honor attended. It was nice to see her...I was going because she was a local woman, I had not met her prior. She was not very strong, but I think it made her feel welcomed and cared for, lifted her spirits.
By all means, go enjoy!
hello...are you nuts, of course you are the guest of honor. go have fun, dance, eat be merry
If attending the benefit will exhaust you, and not be good for your health, don't go, because the whole point of the benefit is to help you!
Don't push yourself, and at this time in your life, don't worry about pleasing others, you need to do everything you can in order to get better, this is what people want. They wouldn't want you to be there if it compromised your health in any way. They will understand completely if you can't make it, and if they don't: they are nuts. You are going through A LOT, you are a super trouper.
If you want to show appreciation, perhaps you can order your sister-in-law some flowers to thank her for what she's doing, or give her some movie tickets with a nice thank-you note. Mostly, when people do good deeds, they are doing it out of the goodness of their hearts, so letting them know in some way that you acknowledge her gift is a great thing to do if you don't feel like attending the event. You'd be surprised how effective a simple 'Thank You'note is in this day and age, they always touch the people who receive them.
Concentrate on getting better, everyone will feel great that they pitched in at the beef-n-beer benefit to help you get back on your feet!