How do we get out of paying child support?
My husband was in Germany while serving there self in the Army. He met a german girl, they had a baby. Long story short. He signed papers stating he be the father, the girl said he was not then said he was. My husband be ordered to pay child support because he signed the paper but was told just about not being the father after the fact. We've tried getting her to bring him here & told her we'd pay for him to come, he is 3yrs out-of-date. My husband has tried to get in contact next to his son. She isn't maing it possible. I asked for her address so we could send things, a no go. My husband said he didn't want him to go spinal column and forth or think he wasn't a good dad so he said he would give up his rights so her & her hubby could rob care of him and he could have a stable home. She said no. She told us she would but she just requirements our money and that myself and my children with my husband weren't gonna have anything because it's gonna go to him. She said 1st she desires my husband to be there for him. He tried but she won't let him. She then said she individual want his money and nothing else. The boy was born in Germany and we want custody because she party all the time and drinks. She said she can afford to do that, but then she said she needed help. What can we do? He is still surrounded by the military & she said she was told that he would lose rank for not paying. He also told me that the child services or german government told him he have to sign the paper/or risk going to jail and said it didn't state he was the father just that he be possibly/ It turned out to say he had to pay $300 dollars a monthwhich change at a certain age for so long. He signed thinking otherwise and was forced. I've also been told that Jag(military lawyers) won't touch this because it's a civilian business. The ex girl is now married to another soldier and has only messed beside soldiers, pretty much for a ride here. Unfortunately my husband learned too late. We've both talked civilized to her. Also, the german political affairs sent papers here, I'm guessing with the military's help. Then a order for child support be sent through North Carolina, his last duty station, yet no paternity has be done and it was all forced upon him. He wants to lift care of him, but he said he knows how she was when he be there, leaving the baby next to random people to party.I'm not knock her parenting skills, I haven't met her personally.
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i would get a lawyer and see what they say more or less it.
Hire a german legal representative and have her butt tossed in the klink. That's extortion.
Not much, other than if your husband suspects that he is not the father to get a DNA test. Your husband cannot unilaterally present up his parental rights. He is responsible for his child. He chose to impregnate a German woman in Germany. If your husband pays child support, he has the right to know the boy's address. If that is not the overnight case, hire a German lawyer. Start saving for up for airfare. You need to butt out of this and your husband wishes to establish a relationship with his son.
It's going to be expensive, but you are going to need a lawyer. If the child is his, which it may be, then morally he should wage child support. But beyond that he should have additional rights. There needs to be a DNA testing done. You definitely need legal counsel. ADDITIONAL COMMENT: Save any e-mail communication for your attorney to see.
Get a lawyer. And if ou are smart ample to divorce your husband, you won't have to worry about paying anything.
if that is his son than u need to have a dna oral exam to make sure and if he is then you should hire a lawyer to draw from custody of this boy. even if he isnt your husbands son then this boy sounds like he should not be in the hand of this woman
Getting a legal representative would be great, you have to find out if your husband is actually the father of the child. If he is, then he should recompense the child support until the child is 18 years old. This is the price that many people reward for being careless and thoughtless in their youth. A attorney can advise you on visiting rights and possible adoption.
OK Your husband ,and yourself need to find yourself a really good Attorney/Lawyer ! And show them everything that she have said or done to you two ! And always keep any and all e-mail /letters and also register phone calls between both parties ! Now really try keeping track of any ,and everything said between you all..Been There ,and done that ! The Best of Luck for you two !. And may God Bless You both ! Dan
You don't mention whether your husband is still in the military or if it's the Army that forcing him to pay. If that's the luggage, he can always go to JAG and speak with an attorney give or take a few signing before he was told, as well as human being coerced [by the Army] to pay. The next option would be to check next to your district court clerk about forcing her to submit to a paternity test. Bottom line, the military will attempt to force you and intimidate you into doing a great deal of things - if you let them get away with it. There's no Court establish (German or otherwise) ordering child support, no substantiated proof your husband is the father, and no current local (USA) order or wage garnishment forcing him to do so. If he's not still in the military, afterwards I don't understand your problem and would simply stop paying - at least until a paternity test proves otherwise.
Actually Digitalmagic is right. If there isn't a US Court establish then the German girl doesn't have many option for collecting child support in the United States. If the military is ordering him to pay later he should talk with JAG. In many cases a section commander will just order him to pay (They are not Judges and they are busy next to other concerns) so he needs to go higher since he is mortal denied his rights (comply with commanders orders however contact JAG as soon as possible). If he is not in the military afterwards he can probably ignore the girl. If she wants payment next she will have to take him to court and doing so across the Atlantic is not very unforced to do. If she takes him to court then he can fight for visitation and custody. Now if your stationed surrounded by Germany right now things are very different and I don't know German law but if your within the United States and your husband has left the military just rebuff the girl. In US law (in most cases) if a husband must pay child support they must also have some opportunity of custody or visitation. She can't have her cake and eat it too. As too what Germany wants, it is doubtful that they will petition the United States rule to extradite a person for what you have described. Extremely doubtful.
get a attorney
