Why are Moms so nuts when it comes to weddings?
I just anwered a question about a butt-in-ski mom-in-law and it, and that question pop up. I delt with it with my mom, step-mom, and my mother-in-law. I hope that I dont do that to my kids. Best 'EXCUSE' (LOL) gets 10 points.
because they want you not to miss out on what they didnt get to have and thanks to technology theres more, hey may like to spoil and they may like to live out their dream through you.
unfortunately, my mum died of breast cancer when i was 16 in 2000 so i wont ever need to winge about that on a superficial basis.
because they love to spend money
tens of thousand of dollars
its their thing they do
Well honestly, I think it's because it's her day too. It's her beautiful daughter, it's a lot of her friends on the guest list, and it's usually a great deal of her money...usually. I would say that most moms want the day to be perfect because it's her little girls big day and she wants her to be happy, stress free. That, and mom's always want to be the source of knowlege. She feels that she can provide the best advice on what to do and what not to do because she has already been there, done that. Second to that...weddings are usually about the show...the bigger the better in most mind sets. With that, it could also be about being held accountable for throwing a fabulous wedding. A lot of my mom's friends will be in attendance and she does not want to look bad, but she has let me run with it entirely...just throwing in suggestions here and there. I think she is finally realizing how against tradition I really am.
all moms want a perfect wedding for their children.and thre's no such thing.
don't ask stupid questions
Because they are re-living their experince that they had or living out their Dreams that they wished they had.
In my case it was my FATHER that went Crazy, My mother had to tell him to BACK OFF.
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she is a woman
I HAVEN'T MET ONE MOM WHO HASN'T GIVEN MORE THAN THEIR 2 CENTS AND IT GOES BEYOND THE DOLLAR. MY FRIENDS MOM OVER DID IT SOOO MUCH,,, I COULD BY A NEW CAR IF I WOULD'VE GOTTEN THAT MONEY.
Because they want to live vicariously through their daughters and have the wedding that they always wanted but were not able to have because THEIR mothers were nuts too.
Be firm but polite and try to understand that she just wants what she thinks is best.
I think Mom's are trying to re-live their wedding day somehow by making you do all the things she wished she had done for her wedding. What it comes down to is this: there is no perfect wedding day. You are going to be stressed out and things will go wrong, even if no one notices but you. Unfortunately, not all women can forget these imperfections and twenty five, or thirty years later, when their daughter is getting married, they try to 'fix' whatever went wrong on their special day, thereby creating something for the bride to take out on her daughter someday. It never ends.
because they want their child to have the perfect wedding they never had
My opinion - because they have been in control of their child's life up until that point and it is very difficult to give up that control.
Sure, they may be trying to live through their children and make sure they get the wedding that they never had themselves but I believe it has more to do with the control factor.
