Family help lil bro getting sent off WHAT SHOULD I DO!! 10 POINTS?

Ok i moved away to work on my music(ive been gone for a year and came to a vist)(im 19) and my brother is 14 its his second offence, he broke contained by to a house and got caught,i mean i have have my fair share on run in with the police and he other looked up to me and always trying to be like me, but every since ive been gone my mom have been telling me he acts resembling hes a bada** and its likes hes trying to make a name for his self i scrounging did he do this because he looks up to me and this just happen tonight and i leave within a week...i mean ive always try to guid him the right way within life but hes acts like he is the s**tever since ive be gone is there anything i could of done to pervent and how long will he be gone and will i be able to get him out..,.
he is presently bein moved to a dettion center
the frist offence was the same item i mean what could he want he has every thing he requirements was dose he resort to stealing
dude dont put the blame on yourself, as you have said, you have guided himn as much as you can and so, he know what is right from wrong adn he brought this upon himself. this might sound a little cliched, but its itme to let him budge, he will probably come out a better man. There is really nothing you can do. He is not your responsibility. Just keep being available to listen if he requests to talk. He is a person all on his own, and will do what he is going to do. You are entitled to hold your own life go the way you want it to turn, and don't have to stay home just to keep you brother out of trouble. Chances are if you stay home he will still do the things he is doing to gain in trouble.

This type of stealing has nothing to do beside needing the stuff he takes.

Good luck on your music, you are obviously a loving brother and deserve to enjoy good things happen for you. I hope that whild he is in detention they do an evaluation and provide counseling for him. It might truly help him to be in a program for a while.

It is not your fault. It may appear like he has just be acting like this since you left, but the timing is probably not related to your leaving, it merely happened to follow your leaving. He just is at the age where on earth he is going to try to find his place in the world.

Gool Luck




No, there is really nothing you can do.

Except that. . .

Hireing a legal representative could be helpful, but the court must do whetever is "in the best interest of the child and the community". In the state where I live it is the directive for the court to decide what to do based on "best interest" so there is a indiscriminate that the lawyer could present to the court that staying at home is in the "best interest" but since he has already be given one chance and not complied he may be deemed to be in entail of placement in an institution setting. That is not a given, but must be proven by the state before he is removed form the home.

Your brother should already have a legal representative appointed by the court to help him with this problem, and that lawyer should be capable of do the same thing as any lawyer you hire. If you do hire a advocate make sure that he practices in the juvenile court a lot because it is not duplicate as adult court, nor is it the same as any other civil or family regulation court. (The attorney appointed by the court has been qualified by the court and certified as capable of handeling this type of armour.)
Well you need to show him there aren't any millionaires surrounded by prison, and cool guys aren't there either. Try getting him interested in something different, approaching your music job. Maybe a sound man, or lighting, stage art. Advertising! He needs some tough love ! If he looks up to you, is this the example you are to him ? Mr. Tough Guy.....I don't get the message why guys choose to live the "jailhouse" lifestyle. (He is still very young and still has a unpredictability to change his life. Hopefully, he will make better choices. I guess that depends on whether or not he desires to be a productive member of society.) Do YOU ???
2ND OFFENSE means he learned NOTHING from his 1st one. And if you get him off... would it not just reinforce him thinking that he is above the law? I have an idea that you are (wishfully) confusing him with the sweet little brother that you knew, and what he is now choosing to be.
He is not little anymore, and he have to take responsibility for his choices. The comment that he has everything he needs, make me wonder if he has never had to work for anything and has a screwed up sense of person entitled? Nothing is "his fault" attitude?
Here's the thing.. when you love someone so much that you want to find an excuse for what he did ("if I stayed, maybe he would have be better"), then they never learn. You desperately are trying to find a way to explain it, EVEN if it process falsely taking blame for it, on you. Or trying to fix it for him. It is called 'enabling'.
If you always other protect someone from the consequences of their actions (typical for a youngest child), then they never learn. If you FIX THIS, what happen next time?
Little brothers have a hero worship of big brothers. You had your run ins with the canon and he is trying to follow in your foot steps. As long as you continue to break the law, expect your brother to do indistinguishable. It might land him in prison before it is over, but explicitly what happens to law breakers. You might not continue to be so lucky and could shutting down up in prison with him. You should be ashamed.